I don’t know if this stands true for men, but I am aware that many women get lost in their partners world of aspirations. At times, we as women are so caught up in meeting the needs of our significant other that we lose sight of our own vision and sense of purpose.
Ladies and gentlemen please do not misunderstand my words. I believe in supporting my partner 110% not just by standing by him but also believing in him and dedicating time, money, energy or any other resources necessary to help him bring his vision to life. However, it is crucial that I also stay committed to my own ambitions, aspirations, goals, and vision.
I firmly believe that by maintaining this balance, it will alleviate any lingering regrets or resentments in the future for both me and my partner.
Supporting someone else’s dream while pursuing your own is indeed a challenging task that requires a unique blend of patience, balance, mutual support, open dialogue and understanding.
Communication is always key. Discussing one another’s visions and aspirations and how you both can support one another will not only help you grow together but also it prevents drifting apart as you both work towards individual goals and dreams.
Although this can be challenging, it can also be a fun and rewarding experience with a touch of creativity. Finding ways for both of you to collaborate and support each other’s success is essential. It’s vital to find common ground and find ways to accomplish things together as a team.
One of my greatest obstacles is time management. Coming up with ways to balance home responsibilities, work commitments, supporting his vision, and pursuing my own goals. This can be overwhelming and exhausting. It is in these moments when boundaries and self-care become crucial. No doubt life gets heavy, and I must take a moment to reset, regroup, prioritize and refocus on dedicating my time to OUR endeavors.
I believe that a key aspect of supporting his vision while pursuing my own purpose is providing support and encouragement. It is important to offer encouragement and absolute support to each other. Being his biggest cheerleader is not a job duty but an honor for me. Although I am honored to be his cheerleader, there are moments when I have to step up to the plate and be his coach as well, and trust me, it’s not easy to coach the coach. However, it is necessary, and although he may not like it, he can respect it because he knows without a doubt that I have his best interest in mind and that his vision is just as important to me as my very own vision.
Yes, indeed we Celebrate all victories, regardless of size. As his teammate It’s for me to praise his achievements, highlight his accomplishments, acknowledge his success, and celebrate ALL WINS!
We all know failures are inevitable. So, in these times it is crucial to be the support he needs by showing empathy, understanding, and providing comfort and space when necessary. But please don’t forget to reassure him that you are there to support him and encourage him.
Be the strength that he needs in those moments.
It’s my responsibility to periodically check his temperature, by that I mean to check on his well-being and mental health and offer support if he’s overwhelmed. But the only way to do that is to be mindful of my own mental health, growth, and development. Together, we must embrace and take advantage of every opportunity to learn from each other, grow collectively, and expand our aspirations as we journey through life side by side.
But ladies as you navigate through life supporting his vision, keep sight of your own dreams and aspirations. Let your support for him drive you to pursue your goals with equal momentum, motivation and determination. Create an environment where both of you can thrive and succeed individually and collectively!
Nairobi X